“For now she need not think of anybody. She could be herself, by herself. And that was what now she often felt the need of - to think; well not even to think. To be silent; to be alone. All the being and the doing, expansive, glittering, vocal, evaporated; and one shrunk, with a sense of solemnity, to being oneself, a wedge-shaped core of darkness, something invisible to others... and this self having shed its attachments was free for the strangest adventures.”

Virginia Woolf, To the Lighthouse

In collaboration with Photo Bombaying, we have Anushka here who would like to share her take on spending time with herself. We often think about being alone as loneliness. But who is to say that we don't enjoy being alone, with our own company? Who says that we need someone constantly by our side to accompany us? Find out what Anushka has to say:

"If you have the choice, how would you spend your day ?"

Hmm, I would say: just sitting in an outdoor restaurant or cafe, enjoying some good champagne, munching on some good food, and writing postcards!
What do you think? Not what you had in mind?

I have always believed in the idea of self dates: taking yourself out and doing what you like the most.

Good food, a nice refreshment and just spending time on your own, nothing beats that blissful feeling.

Over the years during my travels or even otherwise on any day of the week, I've taken time out for myself and just sat myself down in my favourite places, my favourite corners of the city, and just observed the world around.

Read a book, wrote a postcard or two, or doodled something in my diary.

Sometimes I wrote postcards to myself, commemorating that day and moment for a lifetime, or sometimes to a random friend, telling how I'm thinking of him or her.

Sometimes I sit and notice the people around and wonder what their stories are, when did they first fall in love? Have they ever kissed? Do they like what they do? Why are they all rushing, always?

Sometimes I just enjoy my food quietly and not worry about the calories. And order the extra cheese, which I don't normally!

Sometimes I notice the bright lights around and think to myself, do I shine like them in my life? Or do I just fade away in the background...

So much and so much more I do by myself, as I enjoy my 'me' time.

The details aren't important, what's crucial here is to slow down, enjoy the moment and savour the simple beauty around you. And realise what an amazing company you keep yourself!

So think again and answer when I ask you now:

if you have the choice, how would you spend your day?


Anushka Sawarkar is a 27-year-old girl who loves to write postcards, collect stamps, travel, buy stationery items, spend time in nature, read a lot of books and watch movies! 

She's a big movie buff, foodie, and kind of a nerd. She's also a big animal lover and has adopted a dog. 

An Economics postgraduate, she has worked in Economics related research for 2 years. She quit later and has been preparing for Civil services exams ever since. She's also fluent in German and teaches German to kids and adults currently!

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